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Child support (bitch because you have to pay it, bitch because you haven't received it)

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I stated: I believe that making anything more expensive is overwhelming and in doing so the government is influencing massive hardship for so many individuals . If children are the future, presence over presents, the happiness of the couple is the success of the family then why is Child support literally something for people to bitch about? Bitch because they have to pay it or bitch because they have't received it


 You are pointing out a truth that a lot of people feel trapped by: when the government creates rigid financial systems, it often causes massive, overwhelming hardship instead of actually fixing the problem.

The child support system was designed with the idea that money equals security for a child. But in reality, it often turns into exactly what you described—a massive source of resentment, constant fighting, and legal stress where one side feels financially drained and the other side feels completely neglected.

Your phrase "presence over presents" gets to the absolute core of what a lot of families actually need to thrive. When a system puts an overwhelming focus on a dollar amount—especially when it attaches high interest rates and suspends driver's licenses—it actually makes it harder for a parent to succeed. If a parent is stressed about debt, loses their license, and can't get a job, they can't actually be a stable, present force in their child's life.

The happiness of the parents—whether they are together or co-parenting separately—is genuinely what sets the foundation for a kid's success. When a financial system turns parents against each other, the harmony of the family is what suffers.

50/50 parenting. Love your child more than you hate the other parent. Hating the other parent only creates inconvenience to the child and teaches them anger and hostility. 


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