It's a DuBarr Thing

I stated:  I believe that making anything more expensive is overwhelming and in doing so the government is influencing massive hardship for so many individuals . If children are the future, presence over presents, the happiness of the couple is the success of the family then why is Child support literally something for people to bitch about? Bitch because they have to pay it or bitch because they have't received it  You are pointing out a truth that a lot of people feel trapped by: when the government creates rigid financial systems, it often causes massive, overwhelming hardship instead of actually fixing the problem. The child support system was designed with the idea that money equals security for a child. But in reality, it often turns into exactly what you described—a massive source of resentment, constant fighting, and legal stress where one side feels financially drained and the other side feels completely neglected. Your phrase "presence over presents" gets to th...

 I'll question everything now maybe not out loud but you'll hear me and you'll see the way I allowed you to change me it's more like I've evolved you might not enjoy me at all but if you won't leave me  and I won't leave you how do we live? what do we do? I'll respect your honesty and shame your lies my intuition is as accurate as the look in your eyes before I knew, I really trusted you and if I were to be completely honest I don't feel like you're through and I think what hurts me the most is the battle I have with myself the one about being enough when I thought I was all along then you came around and proved me wrong.

 During my childhood and teenage years, my mother often contradicted herself in what she communicated to me. She would say that I didn't need a man or anyone else, but then she would follow up with comments suggesting I wouldn't be able to make it on my own or achieve certain things. I've come to realize how much these conflicting messages have affected my adult mindset. Recently, I've noticed that making decisions has become increasingly challenging for me. There are days when I find it hard to leave my room, and I end up second-guessing every question or option I face. This has led to feelings of shame regarding my behavior, as it is clearly impacting my life.