It's a DuBarr Thing

  I hope all of my readers have a blessed day.  Remember that it doesn't matter what you look like or what you weigh if your heart is ugly you're ugly.  Period! Make someone smile today.  Let someone know you care.  It doesn't cost anything to be kind. Thank you so much for your time.

  Post-partum depression was something I didn't experience until my last child.  I'm unsure if the fact that she's a girl had anything to do with it.  My first two children were boys.  Each of my kids has widely opened my eyes to new meanings in life.  My firstborn and oldest son more or less grew up with me.  Although I was smarter and one of the more responsible around my age I still made some horrible decisions.  Some people wouldn't change a thing looking back.  Not me.  If I could go back and make different choices, I would.  There's no doubt about it.  I have regrets, but I also am smart enough to know that I can't dwell on them.  By dwelling on them I'd just be holding myself back from new experiences.  The only way I'll be able to live each day is by accepting those regrets as the choices they were; the lessons they've been for me.  It's not easy to do and some days the battle wears me out.  Growing up I ...

  I suppose it's not an exciting email. We are on my mind. All the situations and the emotions I've been left to have. It's got me thinking that our love isn't the same. In reality, I see us trying another time or two though it occurs to me that my love has been completely unconditional. Still, it's been apparent all along that for you to love me there have been conditions. It's just been brought to my attention recently and I was told to sit and think back to the beginning. I see myself putting my all into someone who was dealing in numbers and I don't even know what mine was. You accomplished what you wanted.. part of me feels like you only came to me when you had no place else to go. I have been the last resort. 'what you say is only in persuasion and if I have what you need it only stauls you from leaving, it never once has stopped you.. that's not love. Not real love anyway. Real love is unconditional like the love that exists in me, f...

Father - Mother God Loving me, - Guard me when I sleep Guide my little feet Up to thee. ~Mary Baker Eddy~ As a child, my mom used to say this little prayer with me every night.  

  Today I'd like to give thanks to all of my readers.  We may not interact but I can feel the energy.  Any day now one of my platforms is going to take off.  I've been working on them both for quite some time and whether I make it around the world or not I just enjoy it in my free time.  

About 5 years ago I met this guy that I wasn't attracted to nor was I even curious about him. It only took about a year for me to realize that I really liked him a lot.  I wanted to hang out and talk to him more but unfortunately, he got locked up.  Since we have been officially dating he has spent most of this time in jail.  I know what people are thinking and can't live worrying about what anyone else has to say.  The hurt and betrayal I've felt have certain people asking me questions as to why I would stay with someone who betrays and hurts me the way he does. The answer to that is, I haven't come across anyone that makes me feel the way he makes me feel.  He messes up a lot and has given me a dozen times to leave him and I just can't. So during his first bid, I was overwhelmed writing letters.  I started using blank note cards.  Then I found a way to design my own.  They are so worth it.  Glossy covered, centered photo, 5 different design...

You never had me from hello in fact, a whole year I said no but you appeared one night from then on you've been my sight clueless to the base of my attraction I can't think of reasons why you're such a distraction you're everything I desire being around you gets me higher I should say "it got" because, around me you're not you get many chances to make better choices you always choose to go where the noise is maybe you think I'll steer you wrong maybe it's me just singing the same ol' song

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Every single day is a battle within myself that no one else see's. My children think that I'm mad at them but the reality of it is that I'm mad at myself. I'm mad at myself for knowing I'd be raising my second and third child alone though I still went through with having them because I wanted them.  That was very selfish of me. Little did I know that it would be so stressful. I say things and express my opinions based on my own experiences.  So, when I say it's not smart to have a child on your own outside of a relationship it's because I know first hand. Being a mom that refuses to give up is the absolute most exhausting job one could have. Did I tell you I'm exhausted?

If you have the opportunity to work, it's important to take it. Your earnings cover not just your living costs but also serve a greater purpose. Even if the job isn’t your favorite, that's perfectly fine. Try to identify something you appreciate about it and hold onto that until you discover a role that excites you more. Always aim to exceed expectations; every experience carries a lesson that can benefit you. It’s up to you to embrace what you learn along the way.

  If you can flirt with the girl to get her then you can flirt with her to keep her.  So many of us are so quick to place blame as to why a relationship fades.  You have to stay interested in one another, genuinely. Instead of getting upset over the things they do or don't do that upset you, think about the things they do that contribute and make you feel good. It takes effortless work. He should give her time and she should be thankful for it. Embrace each other for what you actually do rather than what each other doesn't do. Even if it's something so small, it's important to acknowledge it.

Learn more about yourself or if you are in a relationship the two of you can answer these questions to find out just how similar or how different your beliefs are. It's nice to know when you're on the same page. They're questions requiring sentence based answers that just give you a better idea of what you want from a relationship.  My purpose for this is to have people putting more effort and thought into getting to know one another.  Before a relationship, before having children, before living together it's very important to know a tad bit of what is to come.  Enjoy with or without a partner.  Self Interest Questionnaire

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  If anyone at anytime ever thought I was a fool, it's only because I've let them. There was once a time when I caused or joined chaos on it's journey through my teens and twenties.  It lingered, lurked, and sucked me right in.  Then, next thing you know it came to my attention that my own choices resulted in all of this chaos.  There was a passage in a book that I read and it really caught my attention.  I'm pretty sure that when I read and wrote it down I added my own wording to it. But here it goes "Chaos is unpredictable energy that cannot be controlled.  It has raw power and power is always potentially dangerous.  Chaos will turn a warm heart cold and with that type of power one's heart can sink".   I don't know the name of the book or author off the top of my head though when I get moved into my new place and unpack my books I'll be able to refer the beginning of that quote to the author of the book I read it in.

One of these days someone is going to interact with me on here and it's going to feel amazing. Thank you in advance.  Something that I want to touch base on is addiction stereotype.  Stop acting like you're better than anyone.  Don't ever count yourself out of going through a tough time.  There are so many people out there that have known no love in their life.  They live only where they've left off in learning.  Usually around age 9 is where people realize they have a mind of their own that causes them to be impulsive.  Around the ninth year is when children begin to defy the rules more and more.  The influence bestowed upon us until that point is directly related to the ways in which we were cared for prior. Something I've always said in relation to individual evolving is that everything we need to know (IN ORDER TO GET BY), we learn in Kindergarten.  I emphasize that because of course we don't learn everything in Kindergarten.  That's...

Anticipating Next Time: It’s been a long lonely winter and she’s glad the sun is shining more and the days are growing longer. Her man had been away for what seems like eternity and she’s been anticipating his homecoming since he left. It was the day before the big day and she had to work. She was determined to make it through, keeping busy enough so she didn’t even pay attention to time. That’s the way she liked it. She never really had too much of an issue finding things to do. It was more about the idea that she was always alone in everything she did. Tomorrow would be the end of her loneliness. She imagined this event for so long. The next day was finally here. He came in the door and walked straight up to her with open arms so as soon as their bodies were together he held her in them, tight, like he missed her and never wanted to let her go again.  He smelled so delicious that her desire for him was obvious.  Her breath was so heavy and felt so hot on his neck.  The ...

Life is like sports teams... our children need to know that everyone plays a different part to come together as a team. This is what kids need to know.  People are different.  People think different.  That's how the world has evolved into all that it is. Being on a sports team makes you better at life.  Everyone puts in a different mindset that together creates something people will value. 

  Yesterday September 29 2024 my sister would have been 41. I often wonder what she would look like, if she would have had any children, where does she work, and where would she be living?  I often wonder what life would have been like had she made it here.  She is buried in Ohio where my dad's family is from.  Living in New York since I was three, I'm not sure my mom has ever been back to Ohio.  She's never been to my sister's grave.  She didn't know that my sister was buried next to my paternal grandfather and that she has a beautiful head stone.  My mom thought she was buried in the hill with all the other babies and had a cross in her name.  When my dad died a few years ago my aunt brought me to see my grandma and my sister's graves. Well, my grandma is in a drawer.  She's laying with her head in the west and feet in the east so when her soul sits up it's facing the sunrise. If I could ever have dependable transportation of my own I'd lik...

  Are historians naturally depressed because they live in the past? I am told that I live in the past and what's funny is that since it's been pointed out, I see it.  Often I think back to what was and just how different things have become.  Time has gone by and part of me says there is so much more to accomplish though there is a small part of me that see's myself as I will always be.  I'm unsure why that is; lack of courage I presume.   I'd like to have more courage.  Right now I'm super insecure because of my tooth or lack there of.  It's very embarrassing.  When a customer comes in I like to smile and say hello though when I do their eyes go right to my mouth.  If I smile a little bit, like a grin, barely showing my teeth it's not noticeable.  Then I smile naturally and I'm all teeth and that rotten spot is smack dab in the middle.  I'm going to have a root canal done.  I've never had one and am very nervous.  Ple...

Today I am thankful for my neighbor.  She has been kind enough to allow my daughter to spend the day with her and her children which gives me opportunity to do some things.  If only I'd actually do these said things.  I've made my bed and I cleaned the hallway.  Give me some credit!  I'm also thankful for the truth.  Everyone deserves the truth.  Nobody should ever be left to sit and wonder about anything for more than 24 hours.  Why wait? If you want or don't want something say it.   I'm going to get out of the house today.  It's my choice to be happy and I need to get back to it.  I've been pretty negative lately and it's come to my attention that people do not want to hang out with someone who is consistently complaining.  So today is a beautiful day and I don't want to miss it.  I love you all and I love myself.