It's a DuBarr Thing

 Lately I've been really trying to follow Mel with her Let Them Theory.  I'm going to buy that book. I already get the idea of it but I still like to read into the way others think of and tell a story. I'm aware that I look for aspects of myself in others and critique them. What confuses me is that it's me in the past I seek and then bitch about. There are so many parts of my past that I truly wish I could go back and change.  It makes me wonder if that's the reason I can't move on to a better phase. Personally I keep saying that my life will be less chaotic once I have a vehicle on the road.  Maybe it won't though.  There are internal feelings that vary in favor of buying a car or not.  I really need a vehicle in case of emergencies with one of my children. It's been 4 years that I've struggled getting them places they needed to be and it's the worst feeling in the world knowing your child needs something like the doctor or dentist though having...

  If you can flirt with the girl to get her then you can flirt with her to keep her.  So many of us are so quick to place blame as to why a relationship fades.  You have to stay interested in one another, genuinely. Instead of getting upset over the things they do or don't do that upset you, think about the things they do that contribute and make you feel good. It takes effortless work. He should give her time and she should be thankful for it. Embrace each other for what you actually do rather than what each other doesn't do. Even if it's something so small, it's important to acknowledge it.

Today I am thankful for my neighbor.  She has been kind enough to allow my daughter to spend the day with her and her children which gives me opportunity to do some things.  If only I'd actually do these said things.  I've made my bed and I cleaned the hallway.  Give me some credit!  I'm also thankful for the truth.  Everyone deserves the truth.  Nobody should ever be left to sit and wonder about anything for more than 24 hours.  Why wait? If you want or don't want something say it.   I'm going to get out of the house today.  It's my choice to be happy and I need to get back to it.  I've been pretty negative lately and it's come to my attention that people do not want to hang out with someone who is consistently complaining.  So today is a beautiful day and I don't want to miss it.  I love you all and I love myself. 

A few years ago I learned a great way to teach myself all I'm grateful for is to write down 3 things I'm thankful for.  Yes, my 3 kids, always though I'm talking about the little things.  Things we tend to forget or let go of in passing the days away. There are so many fortunate moments for each and every one of us that go unrecognized because paying attention to them has never been influenced. Kids need to know that their life is never promised and neither are their parents.  Sometimes when it seems life has been so unfair it turns out that it's lead us exactly where we need to be. Losing someone or a good thing ending can really run a toll on one person and forget about it if they're responsible for the safety and well being of a child or children. It may seem pretty far fetched and down right stupid though whatever we lose; whoever we lose, it teaches us.  "Our loss is another's rejoice" was the quote at the top of a drawing that displayed a person ...