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Welcome To My World
# It's a DuBarr Thing
*Pronounced doo-bar.*
**Life is complicated. People are complicated. And sometimes, the thoughts we carry inside us need somewhere to go.**
Welcome to *It's a DuBarr Thing* — my little corner of the world where I put life into words, one thought at a time.
Life has a way of bringing our past back to the surface, teaching us lessons we didn't know we needed, and challenging us to look at ourselves a little differently. Some days bring happiness and gratitude. Other days bring frustration, regret, questions, and truths we'd sometimes rather avoid.
Here, I write about all of it.
This is a place for honest reflections, life lessons, relationships, personal growth, gratitude, mistakes, second chances, and the things we don't always feel comfortable saying out loud. Sometimes I'll share a lesson I've learned. Sometimes I'll simply need to get a thought out of my head and onto paper. And sometimes, I might write something that makes you stop and think about your own life.
I'm not perfect, and I'm certainly not here pretending to have all the answers. I'm still learning, still growing, and still figuring things out as I go.
My hope is that somewhere among my words, you'll find something that makes you smile, makes you think, helps you feel understood, or reminds you that you're not the only one who's ever felt a certain way.
Because life is too short to spend it pretending to be someone we're not.
**These are my thoughts, my lessons, my perspective, and my journey.**
Some may agree. Some may disagree. And that's okay.
After all, we each see the world through a different set of eyes.
So take what speaks to you, think about what challenges you, and leave room for a little understanding along the way.
**This is life through my eyes. This is my story, still being written.**
And well… *It's a DuBarr Thing.*
One of these days someone is going to interact with me on here and it's going to feel amazing. Thank you in advance. Something that I want to touch base on is addiction stereotype. Stop acting like you're better than anyone. Don't ever count yourself out of going through a tough time. There are so many people out there that have known no love in their life. They live only where they've left off in learning. Usually around age 9 is where people realize they have a mind of their own that causes them to be impulsive. Around the ninth year is when children begin to defy the rules more and more. The influence bestowed upon us until that point is directly related to the ways in which we were cared for prior. Something I've always said in relation to individual evolving is that everything we need to know (IN ORDER TO GET BY), we learn in Kindergarten. I emphasize that because of course we don't learn everything in Kindergarten. That's...
Anticipating Next Time: It’s been a long lonely winter and she’s glad the sun is shining more and the days are growing longer. Her man had been away for what seems like eternity and she’s been anticipating his homecoming since he left. It was the day before the big day and she had to work. She was determined to make it through, keeping busy enough so she didn’t even pay attention to time. That’s the way she liked it. She never really had too much of an issue finding things to do. It was more about the idea that she was always alone in everything she did. Tomorrow would be the end of her loneliness. She imagined this event for so long. The next day was finally here. He came in the door and walked straight up to her with open arms so as soon as their bodies were together he held her in them, tight, like he missed her and never wanted to let her go again. He smelled so delicious that her desire for him was obvious. Her breath was so heavy and felt so hot on his neck. The ...
Life is like sports teams... our children need to know that everyone plays a different part to come together as a team. This is what kids need to know. People are different. People think different. That's how the world has evolved into all that it is. Being on a sports team makes you better at life. Everyone puts in a different mindset that together creates something people will value.
Yesterday September 29 2024 my sister would have been 41. I often wonder what she would look like, if she would have had any children, where does she work, and where would she be living? I often wonder what life would have been like had she made it here. She is buried in Ohio where my dad's family is from. Living in New York since I was three, I'm not sure my mom has ever been back to Ohio. She's never been to my sister's grave. She didn't know that my sister was buried next to my paternal grandfather and that she has a beautiful head stone. My mom thought she was buried in the hill with all the other babies and had a cross in her name. When my dad died a few years ago my aunt brought me to see my grandma and my sister's graves. Well, my grandma is in a drawer. She's laying with her head in the west and feet in the east so when her soul sits up it's facing the sunrise. If I could ever have dependable transportation of my own I'd lik...